DO YOU LISTEN TO UNDERSTAND OR LISTEN TO REPLY?

To anyone out there who’s hurting — it’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help. —Barack Obama— The deaths by suicide of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain have been front and centre of late. This has given some the courage to divulge information about family members who died by suicide. Others have spoken openly for the first time about dark periods in which they contemplated suicide. I have lived with depression for most of my adult life. The profound pain…

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Uncle Ed, a Pair of Hush Puppies, and a Barrel of Salt Bait

One of my brothers and his wife dropped by earlier in the week and we spent a lot of time telling stories about our Uncle Ed, Dad’s oldest brother. Edwin Lensley Roache was born on October 6, 1913. He was profoundly deaf and mute and lived with his parents until their deaths. Uncle Ed knew every nook and cranny of West Head from a lifetime of daily walks along the shore. He was a master at finding and picking blueberries and cranberries.…

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Expect the Unexpected at the Yellow House with the Red Roof

The yellow house with a red roof at 281 West Head RD has been home for almost two weeks. My superman husband, Glenn, has unpacked all the boxes and put everything away. The boxes were picked up by the recycling truck this morning. Thank you, Glenn! We had a few broken items: a smashed 55” television, a broken leg on an antique rocking chair, a badly damaged antique sewing stand, a dented brass bed, and most amusing of all, one…

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Our Next Move is to the Nursing Home

DAY ONE Believe me when I say, moving is not for the faint of heart. Moving 1700 km from one province to another quadruples the stress. It seemed like a great idea in the beginning. By the time the moving vans were loaded and on their way, we were questioning our decision. Who’s idea was this anyway? MY FIRST MISTAKE We have two vehicles which meant I had to drive one. No problem. I am a good sport and enjoy a challenge now and…

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Will I Attend My Teachers’ College Reunion?

May 2018 marks the 40th anniversary of my graduation from the Nova Scotia Teachers’ College.  After College, I applied for jobs anywhere, but Nova Scotia. It was time to spread my wings and soar and live the life I wanted. After all, I was going to be the grand old age of 21 in September of that year. With a red face and long nose, I confess that I applied for jobs for which I was woefully unqualified such as a…

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A Bittersweet Life Change

In 2004, Glenn and I made a major life change. We purchased Monk Funeral Home in beautiful Bobcaygeon, Ontario. Friends and family thought we had taken leave of our senses, but we had news for them. Our senses abandoned us years ago and we have been looking for them ever since. I believe they left the country. Chaos Reigned Supreme We arrived in Bobcaygeon on February 6th, exhausted and unable to find the funeral home we had just purchased — only slightly…

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HANKERING FOR THE MUSHY FOODS OF MY CHILDHOOD

I love mushy, soggy food, even if it is supposed to be crispy or crunchy. As well, I like eating cold food that should be hot — like a can of Campbell’s Tomato Soup straight from the fridge or a lukewarm cup off coffee. And that’s not all — I used to put my frozen ice cream in the oven to soften it. I believe these unusual eating habits are deeply rooted in my childhood and provide warm, fuzzy feelings. There was, however,…

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YOU MIGHT BE A WEST HEADER IF YOUR KITCHEN SINK IS IN THE PORCH

“The kitchen is the heart of every home, for the most part. It evokes memories of your family history.”  Debi Mazar For generations the kitchen was the heart of the home, the place families gathered, and our house was no exception. When I found this picture from the seventies it flooded all my senses.Take a good look at it and I will try to add the details, so you will feel you are sitting on the cot or at the table.…

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You’ll Know the Biscuit Dough is Ready by the Way it Feels

Date squares, pastry, bread, custard, butterscotch pie, cinnamon rolls and biscuits were just a few of my mother’s baking specialties. Everything she made melted in your mouth. Sadly, I have never been able to duplicate any of them because my sweet little mother did not use recipes. Recently, Allison and I were talking about Nanny Roache’s biscuits and the whole affair turned into a bit of a funny, one person story or monologue by mom. I have never tried something like this,…

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THE OLDEST AND STRONGEST EMOTION OF MANKIND IS FEAR. (H.P. Lovecraft)

A life devoid of FEAR is a dangerous enterprise. A child must learn that hot coffee burns, a broken glass can cause a deep cut, and a tricycle is no match for a car. These FEARS preserve life. But do we have to FEAR everything?   HEALTHY FEAR OF AN UNBUCKLED SEAT BELT Do you remember when seat belts became mandatory? Loads of people, including my own father, had anecdotal stories of how they would have died had they been wearing a…

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